Being a mommy is a full-time job. And with any job, stress is inevitable. Motherhood can be a very rewarding experience which brings with it immense joy and fulfilment. Stress is also a part of this bundle of emotions which is motherhood.
When you know things are getting out of hand, it is better to take a step back and take stock of things. If you are in need of some downtime there is no shame in taking it. Everyone is entitled to a break from time to time without which a burnout is imminent. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Doing something for yourself will make you feel better and will help you become a better mother.
Here some ways in which you can avoid a mommy burnout.
With all that running around being a mother there is hardly any time for you to care about yourself and your appearance. Taking care of yourself the family will take a toll on your body whether you choose to acknowledge it or not. You might not have had a haircut in months or even a simple facial. This is not about being vain, but more about pampering yourself. So, take some time out and get yourself a manicure, pedicure, massage or a haircut and see your rejuvenated in an instant. So set yourself a parlour/spa date and see the stress melt away. If you don't want to go out, you get a beautician to come to your house and get the works done. Most parlours offer this service and there are apps as well which can connect you to a beautician.
Sometimes if you are able to read a book for a few hours or watch some TV without running behind your child, it would go a long way towards helping you cope with the pressure of being a mother. If you need to get away from it all, and just crave for some 'me time’, discuss your options with your partner and work something out. It could be something as simple as going out for a walk or taking some time off and going to the mall to do some shopping. You can schedule these activities on a daily or weekly basis depending on how much stress you are coping with.
A support system
Remember the saying it takes a village to raise a child? If you are a mother you know this to be true. It is next to impossible to raise a child single handedly. You need a support system, an inner circle of friends and family whom you can depend on. If you feel the need to escape it all for a few hours, you need to have a system in place which can make this escape possible. Ensure you chose it wisely because they will have to stick with you through thick and thin.
This might seem like a no brainer, but eating right can go help reduce your stress. You should remember to keep yourself hydrated and eat well at all times. Motherhood can take a toll on you as it is and if you choose to skip meals and not take proper care of yourself, it will do drain you out even more. So remember to eat and take care of all your dietary needs in order to do justice to yourself and your family.
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Avoid being a perfectionist
Sometimes it is good to let good of this race towards perfection. There is immense pressure on women in general to cook the perfect meal, to iron the shirt to perfection, to maintain the perfect house and so on. But all this takes a toll and it is next to impossible to run a perfect house that will please everyone. The only person you need to please is yourself. So do what is right for you and forget about being a perfectionist. This will help keep your stress level to a minimum.
Gadgets are a source of stress. If you can stay away from your mobile, laptop, television, etc. even for a few hours, it will bring down your stress level considerably. This will cut down the unnecessary chatter and let you soak in some peace and quiet even if only for a few hours.
Be kind to yourself
Sometimes we are our own enemy. We become too hard on ourselves for no apparent reason. When you are a mother and things are not going as imagined they might, it is very easy to blame yourself and give yourself a hard time. But you should not. You should be kind to yourself. Take a step back from the situation and give yourself some time to think. If you think about it rationally you will be able to give yourself a break.
Being a mother is not always going to be a bed of roses. Whenever you feel that you need a hand, ask for help. There is absolutely no harm in doing this. It will in fact make you a stronger person and a well-rounded mother in the long run.