If your child’s leisurely pace upsets you, her barrage of questions irritates you, you feel you’ve no time to explain things to her—then, you really need to practise becoming a more patient parent.
By Arun Sharma
It was 7:45 a.m. and Anita was racing against time to get ready and leave for office. She also had to drop her 10-year-old daughter Bittu at school, on her way. After placing the breakfast on the table, she called Bittu, who was getting ready in her room, and began having her breakfast.
Anita finished her breakfast; but, there was no sign of Bittu. Looking at the clock and cursing time for slipping away so quickly, she almost ran towards Bittu’s room to check on the reason for the delay.
The sight of what Bittu was doing made Anita lose her temper. Bittu was standing by the window happily watching a pair of doves.
While we can’t blame Anita for giving Bittu an earful, can we blame little Bittu?
It is tough to inculcate patience and tougher to remain patient, especially when dealing with children. However, for parents, it is a must to possess this virtue and model it.
Being patient while interacting with a child conveys to her that:
On the other hand, when parents show impatience or lose their patience, the child:
As a parent, if practising patience isn’t your forte, then you should read our tips to develop this invaluable trait. Here they are:
Parenting a child is not an easy task. Not only do children test our physical endurance, but some of the things they do can stretch our patience thin. During such stressful times, it is important to remind ourselves that children will challenge limits and we need to stay patient and guide them in the right direction.
To conclude, let us draw inspiration from this couplet –
Dheere dheere re mana, dheere sab kuch hoye;
Maali seenche sau ghada, ritu aaye phal hoye — Kabir Das (Fifteenth-century poet)
Here’s a loose translation of these lines:
Nature never works in haste. For, an eager gardener may irrigate a tree with 100 pots of water, but only when it’s time does the tree bear fruit.
As a parent, learn to be like the patient gardener and keep nurturing your little one…
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