Frustrated because your child doesn't pay attention to what you say? We list six possible reasons why your child is ignoring you.
By Jasmine Kaur
Sometimes, your child may act like he hasn't heard a word of what you said or ignore you outright. As a parent, such behaviour can be extremely frustrating.
But, have you tried finding out what is preventing your child from listening to you? Is it a sign of bad behaviour or are there other reasons?
Often, the reason for your child not listening to you may lie with you. Here are six reasons why your child may not be paying attention to you:
1. What you say isn't easy to understand: It is hard for children, and even adults, to follow a series of instructions. Giving children multiple instructions at the same time can force them to tune you out — that is, stop listening or paying attention. Also, if you are not clear in expressing what you want your child to do, he may not act according to your wishes.
2. You talk without getting your child's attention: Sometimes, your child can become so engrossed in what she is doing, that she may not hear what you are saying. Remember, as children grow up, their ability to focus and concentrate also increases and, they tend to spend more time in activities of their interest.
3. You have set a bad example: Children observe their parents and try to follow in their footsteps. Some parents set a poor example by not paying attention when their child is communicating with them or requesting their attention. And, when the child also behaves in the same way later on, parents feel bad.
4. You let your child get away without consequences: Some children wilfully ignore their parents. This can be to resist being controlled or directed. This habit gets a boost when parents allow their child to get away with the tendency.
5. You sound critical: Constant criticism, or scolding and yelling by an exasperated parent can make a child tune the parent out. Children, as much as adults, dislike being talked to in an angry tone or a harsh manner. It makes the child perceive the parent as a threat and look for ways to escape.
6. Your child may have a medical condition: Sometimes, medical conditions like hearing deficit or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can prevent a child from listening or paying attention to what is being said.
Now that you know why children don't listen and, how you can get them to pay attention, keep in mind that changing a child's listening habit will take time. So, find out why your child isn't listening to you, and remember to be patient and persistent in your efforts.
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