Nostalgia for their child’s early years often makes parents wonder why their little one ever grew up. Not only do they miss the smiles, babbles and giggles, but also feel lost when they look at how much their little bundle of joy has changed over the years. They find it hard to reconcile with the fact that their child no longer feels lost when alone or rushes to them with arms outstretched to hug and seek support. Yet, parents feel proud when they see their child’s developing abilities, his increasing confidence, and his achievements, all of which provide glimpses of his bright future.
While changes never stop taking place in your child’s personality, we list those six changes that would have made you wonder and feel proud at the same time.
- She no longer bursts out in laughter: As an infant and as a toddler, your little one would break into peals of laughter when you made a funny face, mispronounced a word, made some strange amusing noises or touched her sensitive tickle spots. But as she grows beyond toddlerhood, these actions no longer seem funny to her. On the contrary, she might be tempted to think if her parents even know what they are doing and try to correct you.
- He learns to be tactful: Your child’s foot stomping and brutally honest expression of his feelings would have convinced you that he was sleeping in the barn when god was teaching mankind the art of discretion. However, he proves you wrong. With time, he learns the fact that tact is the best way of influencing both the barbarian and the benevolent to his advantage.
- She gets attracted to technology: As your child grows older, you realise how easily and quickly she learns to use technology. It begins with evincing an interest in simple toys, feeling fascinated by the moving images on the television, and becoming captivated by the hand-held screen devices. Her interest in technology can sometimes make her neglect you as well. And, if left unchecked, this attraction can degenerate into addiction.
- He begins to share: The ‘I want everything for myself’ or the ‘possessing but not sharing’ attitude slowly gives way to a more open approach. Your child learns the fact that what he has can be used to spread happiness and cheer among those around him. He begins to share his toys, eatables and other possessions without you asking him to do so.
- She begins to reason: While your child believed and trusted every word you said, and was convinced by every reason you gave, it’s no longer so. Your words are taken with a pinch of salt. Her experience has taught her that every coin has two sides, and that she should look at both the sides before making up her mind. So, you no longer sound so convincing or seem infallible to her as you did earlier.
- He begins to take over: As your child gains in strength and develops his abilities, he shows more willingness to learn and contribute to the household. It goes beyond the usual cleaning up of the room and putting the dirty laundry in the right place. He takes up certain responsibilities for himself, thus sharing some of your burden. He also learns to evaluate situations and share his own viewpoints — gradually grooming himself for taking over the role your advisor.
As our children grow up, our relationship with them changes. While it feels good to interact with children who are growing up fast and catching up with us, it does also make us feel sad because, at some point along this ‘growth curve’, their delightful childhood years disappear forever.
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