As a parent, challenges are part of your life. But, sometimes, problems can overwhelm you and make you snap. Develop resilience to cope with such tough times and bounce back stronger.
By Ashwin Lobo
Although we try our best to ensure that we face problems in life with composure, it's a wish that never comes true, despite our best efforts.
Therefore, we need to learn how to make lemonade when life gives us lemons. In other words, face challenges with courage, never give up, remain optimistic and adapt to every situation. Psychologists have labelled the quality that helps us do all the above as 'resilience'.
While some individuals are born with the natural ability to handle distress and stress in a better way, others can learn to develop resilience over time. Being a resilient parent can affect your and your child's life in many positive ways.
Arundhati Swamy says, "When parents are resilient, the benefits are two-fold. First, resilient parents use their emotional strength to cope effectively not just with the pressures of routine tasks within the family, but also with the stresses of an unexpected setback or crisis. Resilience insulates them from snarky comments and destructive criticism, which could otherwise undermine their confidence as parents. Second, their children observe and absorb from them the essence of resilience — emotional control, grit, hard work and perseverance in the face of adversity. They are able to apply these strengths to their school work and other activities, setting themselves on the path to success."
With this being such an important quality for a parent to have, here are some simple tips that can help you develop resilience:
Resilience is like a muscle. The more you test it, the better you become at bouncing back. So, the next your little one fails in an exam, refuses to eat his dinner, throws a tantrum or makes a mess, take control of the situation. Choose to handle it calmly, with resilience.
Arundhati Swamy is a counsellor and the Head of Parent Engagement Programmes at ParentCircle.
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