A habit can sometimes make the crucial difference between success and failure in life. Look out for these five behaviours which, if unchecked, can put your child at a disadvantage later.
By Jasmine Kaur
“Habits are safer than rules; you don’t have to watch them. And you don’t have to keep them either. They keep you.”―Frank Hall Crane, American Actor-Director
Habits imbibed during childhood determine the type of individual we will grow up into and how our life will shape up. While good habits set us up for success, bad ones can lead to our downfall.
Therefore, as a parent, while you nurture good habits in your child, it is equally important that you watch out for any bad habits he may slowly develop.
Here are five unhealthy habits that can take your child down the wrong path and have undesirable adverse effects on his life later on:
1. Stealing: Young children are unaware of the complexities of life and look at everything in a simple way. Research shows that children under the age of three are unable to differentiate between their possessions and that of others. As a result, they don't consider it wrong to take things that don't belong to them. However, as they grow older, children begin to understand this difference.
But some children do get into the habit of stealing. It may be because they:
Stealing becomes a concern when a child:
If not controlled early on, this habit of stealing can land your child on the wrong side of the law later on in life. Some of the things you can do to help your child give up the habit of stealing are:
If your efforts aren't proving effective enough in helping your child, do seek professional help.
2. Aggression: Feelings of anger which makes an individual deliberately harm others or indulge in hostile interaction can be termed as aggression. Usually, the home environment plays a major role in giving rise to aggression in children.
Children may display aggressive behaviour due to reasons, such as:
Feelings of aggression can make children behave in ways that are unacceptable. Some of the behaviours aggressive child tend to exhibit are:
As a parent, some of the things you can do to curb your child's aggressive behaviour are:
3. Selfishness: Most children don't understand that they are being selfish when they are reluctant to share their possessions or want everything for themselves. However, as children grow older, they begin to understand that this is a bad quality and tend to begin sharing.
But, this is not the case with every child. Some children continue to behave in a selfish manner. This usually happens when:
This can affect a child in many adverse ways. It can make him:
After observing your child for a period, if you come to understand that he has been acting in a selfish manner, here are some things you can do to break this habit:
4. Excessive complaining: Of course, all of us do resort to complaining when we want to draw the attention of others towards something that is troubling us. However, for some children, it can become a habit.
Some reasons why a child continues to complain, include:
Listening to frequent complaints can not only exhaust parents but also have adverse effects on children as well. Some of the bad effects of excessive complaining include:
Some of the things you can do to help your child overcome this habit are:
5. Cheating: Once in a while, every child feels tempted to cheat. While little ones do so because they are unaware that it's morally wrong, grown up children may cheat because they are unaware of the consequences. In some cases, cheating may have become a habit.
When children cheat, it is usually due to the following reasons:
While cheating does help in the short term, it only gives rise to negative consequences later in life. The habit of cheating can make a child:
Here are a few things you can do to help your child overcome this nasty habit:
Children aren't born perfect. As they begin to grow, and experience and explore the world around them, along with good habits, they also develop bad ones. Therefore, as parents, it is our responsibility to help our children shun what's bad for them and encourage them to adhere to practices that will help them succeed in life.
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