Issues like feeling lonely in a new school or separation from grandparents may seem trivial to elders but can be distressing to a child. Here's how you can guide your child through such ordeals.
By Jasmine Kaur
Life is all about experiencing every moment. And, while doing so, along with good experiences, we also have bad ones.
As adults, we are better able to handle the negative effects of bad experiences. But, this is not so with children. They need to be guided on how to overcome bad experiences, and emerge stronger and better.
Therefore, as a parent, it is important for you to know how to help your child get over such instances. Here are five common childhood ordeals that every child comes face to face with at some point in life, and tips on how to help her deal with them:
1. Failing to succeed: Every child experiences failure, not just once but quite a few times, in life. Therefore, learning to handle this the right way is very important. Sometimes, a child may not succeed in several areas — from sports to academics to relationships. This can fill him with disappointment and make him feel miserable. If this is left unaddressed, he may also begin to fear failure, which can make him reluctant to try anything.
2. Being bullied: While we are doing a lot to put an end to bullying, it is still widely prevalent, not just in schools but also in other places like play areas. It can be a very traumatic experience for a child. It can lower her self-esteem and also give rise to psychological issues like anxiety and depression.
3. Change of home/school: While change is inevitable, children may find somethings difficult to cope with, such as moving to another home or school. The thought of leaving behind friends and familiar surroundings can be stressful. Also, trying to settle down in the new, unfamiliar environment with strangers can make a child feel lonely and lost.
4. Suffering a loss: It could the loss of a friend, a pet, a family member, or even, an object your child was deeply attached to. While some children get over the grief, some need help to overcome it. The sorrow caused by a loss can affect a child in many ways and may lead to sleep problems, lack of concentration, or withdrawal.
5. Having health problems/undergoing hospitalisation: It is not as common for young children to suffer from grave health issues or undergo hospitalisation. But, if it does happen, it can be very disturbing for the child, and you as well. The treatment regimen, disruption of normal routine and the worried faces of parents can make a child feel distressed.
There is no greater comfort for a child than knowing that her parents understand what she is going through. When you are there to support her, your very presence will reassure your child and make her feel loved. Then, even difficult times will not seem quite so hard to handle or overcome.
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Written by Jasmine Kaur on 27 September 2018.
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