Children like being showered with attention, doted on, admired, praised and loved by everyone, especially by their parents. Here’s how you can make your child feel great.
By Arun Sharma
Words that encourage and motivate children can fill them with a sense of positivity. Saying such words or phrases can not only make your child feel special, but also tell her how much you love her. Let’s look at 40 phrases that will help you make your child feel special.
Right from a very young age, children can understand appreciation and are influenced by it, although they may not necessarily be able to express that they understand it.
When parents show their appreciation, children understand that what they do matters, what they say matters, and that their existence matters. It helps them understand and learn to appreciate others as well.Parental appreciation can also work as a disciplinary technique. Instead of saying ‘don’t do it’ or ‘I don’t like what you are doing’, when parents appreciate what children do, it sends an indirect message to the child that what he is doing is right, and the opposite of that isn’t. It helps develop a child’s sense of self-realisation and self-confidence, which is very important.
However, it is important for parents to remember that children understand the reason behind appreciation very well. So, parents should not show appreciation without any real reason, as it will send a message to the child that parents are trying to be manipulative. — *Dr Vasuki Mathivanan
Despite good intentions, when parents use negative phrases during conversations with their children, it leaves them feeling demotivated and diffident. By understanding what to say that would make children feel positive and motivated, parents can change the way children feel and think about themselves.
*Dr Vasuki Mathivanan is a counselling psychologist. She is the President of Chennai Counsellors' Foundation (CCF).
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